When we start a relationship we all hope that it’s going to be a good one, we dream that it may even be the one that’s going to last forever and we’re excited to see where it will lead us. However, not all relationships are destined for success and some can even hurt you much more that you imagine. Some couples just bring out the worst in themselves and can never function in a relationship, it’s just as simple as that. But the problem is that many times both partners turn a blind eye to their problems, despite them being more than obvious, in hopes of salvaging the relationship, making it worse than before.
It’s in human nature to always hope for the best, we’re designed that way so that we always tend to see the better side of things. However, sometimes, the bad side of things is so overwhelming that it simply doesn’t leave space for anything good. This is how bad relationships are, they are simply a disaster waiting to happen, unless the partners realize that they’re simply aren’t made for each other and part ways amicably.
Unless you want to start hating your partner and despising him for making you miserable, you need to end things and be on your way, look for someone who understands you and appreciates you for who you are. But how can you know if your relationship is just going through a rough patch or it’s doomed?
If you’re in doubt, here are 5 tell-tale signs that your relationship is never going to work and is headed for disaster:
You’re suffocating in your relationship and feel negative
It’s known for a fact that the behavior of the people closest to you affects you significantly, so if you spend a lot of time with someone who’s negative and grumpy, there’s a good chance you’ll end up like them as well. If your partner is filled with negativity and criticism for everything and everyone, it’s going to start affecting you as well and you may even start feeling suffocated in the relationship. As days pass by you start to feel the negativity more and more and it has a direct impact on your everyday life. You feel as if all your efforts for a better life are in vein and there’s nothing you can do to make it right.
This is the type of energy no one needs in their life, especially not coming from their partner. Your relationship is supposed to lift you up, give you energy and make you confident that you can achieve anything you put your mind to. If your relationship is starting to break your spirit and making you lose the will to live, it’s time to say goodbye.
It’s as if he’s trying to mold you into a different person
If your partner really loves you he will love you for who you are, not who he wants you to be. He needs to accept you with all your flaws and weaknesses, not try to change you into something you’re not. If he’s constantly correcting you and trying to make you change, he’s not the one for you. Love is all about compromises and acceptance, not about complaints and rejections. It’s not that you’re not supposed to change one bit, we all grow, evolve and change over time, sometimes we even do it thanks to our partners, but as long as it’s a good change and a change that you yourself want to make.
You can’t express yourself freely
Are you becoming less expressive under the pressure of your partner? Does he push you to speak less, express your feelings less and simply be more reserved? This is definitely not a good sign. If you’re in a loving relationship you’re not supposed to think twice about anything and everything that you say. You’re supposed to feel free to say whatever is on your mind and not be afraid of the reaction it may cause in your partner. You need to be with someone who embraces your expressiveness, who thinks your outbursts are quirky but adorable, and who simply respects you as a person to never try and change you. You need to feel completely comfortable with your partner, and if you don’t, maybe it’s time to start looking for a new one.
You simply can’t trust him anymore
This is usually the case when your partner has misused your trust, once or more times in the past, and you simply can’t let yourself trust him again because you’re scared he’s going to hurt you again. You want to give him a chance and save your relationship, or what’s left of it, but he doesn’t put in the same amount of effort as you do. You should know that things will never be the same as before and if he’s not honestly sorry for what he’s done, you’re right not to trust him. And if there’s no trust in a relationship, there’s no future for the relationship, unfortunately.
You need to be able to trust your partner blindly, to know that he’s never going to do anything to hurt your feelings and leave you heartbroken. If you’re not able to do this, if you simply feel scared of letting your guard down again, your relationship isn’t going anywhere. If you decide to stay in this type of a relationship, you’re just subjecting yourself to more pain and heartache, you’re fooling yourself and you’re lying to yourself. This is not good for any of you, so it’s better to walk away before it’s too late.
Your fights are never ending
All couples fight, it’s an inevitable part of every relationship and it’s a common thing when you start spending more time with each other. However, if your arguments get out of hand and are more frequent and last longer every time, it’s not a good sign. If you feel as if you spend more time being mad at each other than you’re in harmony, your relationship is probably disfunctional. Try to talk to your partner and see what’s the problem. Try to discuss your disagreements, find a common ground and make compromises. If despite all of your efforts, the fights don’t seem to stop, it’s time to face the reality and say good bye. It’s not healthy to stay in a relationship where one fight ends just to see another one spiral out of control, so it’s better to end things now before you both start hating each other.