Love is a funny thing, it can make us feel blissfully happy or it can make us devastatingly heartbroken, depending on how things work out. Whatever the case, we always jump into it with both feet and hope for the best. Sometimes it all pans out and we’re happily in love, while other times, it’s not all flowers and butterflies. But you can never know what the future hold for you, if you never try. Life is a journey or trial and errors and somewhere along the road we meet the one that makes the whole experience worthwhile.
A relationship is about love, trust, responsibility, happiness, compromises, respect and many, many other things. Before all, a relationship is supposed to make us feel happy, positive in life, excited and simply fulfilled. But sometimes, it’s not anything like the relationships we see in the movies, we read about in the books or hear about in the songs we love. All of these sometimes make us question if what we have is true love, if we’re truly happy and if our relationship is the one. But you should know that books, movies and music don’t exactly paint a realistic picture of love and relationships, it’s mostly love blown out of proportions and it’s rarely true to real life.
Here are some of the main signs that your relationship is making you truly happy and that you should hold on to it:
1. You feel happy most of the time.
When you’re in a relationship with someone, for a longer period of time, you shouldn’t expect to feel butterflies in your stomach every time you see your partner. This usually happens for the first few months, until you get to know each other and start feel secure and confident in what you have. After this period passes by, the butterflies and excitement turn into a steady feeling of happiness and content, something that is more long-lasting than the previous one. This is what you need to be looking for in a relationship, a constant feeling of happiness and contentment, a feeling of calmness and simply feeling lucky to have such a wonderful person in your life.
2. You enjoy spending time together
At the beginning all couples tend to go out more often, but after a while they tend to enjoy spending more time at home, alone, enjoying each other’s company. This is a sign of true happiness in a relationship, when you need nothing more than your partner to enjoy yourself. You could watch a movie, a TV show or simply spend whole night talking to each other, you will never feel bored.
3. Your fights are constructive
There’s no such thing as a relationship without arguing. All couples fight about stuff, sometimes small, meaningless things, while other times you argue about some things you feel passionate about. This is healthy and a normal part of being in love. However, there is a big difference between a healthy and an unhealthy argument – what your end goal is. In a healthy argument you want to work things out, resolve the problem and even make a compromise, while in an unhealthy one you just want to prove your point and nothing more. If your arguments are constructive and productive and always help you sort your problems out, you’re in a happy, healthy relationship.
4. You inspire each other to be better
When you’re happily in love, you want to be a better person and you work on yourself and your progress. If your partner makes you want to become a better version of yourself, if he motivates you to aim higher and achieve more in life, he truly wants the best for you and you’re happy to have him in your life.
5. Your sex life is good and becoming better and better
Intimacy may not be the key to being happy in a relationship, but it certainly is important. If you’re not intimate with your partner, it’s like a piece of the relationship is missing and you’ll never feel complete. If you’re not satisfied with your sex life, you could never truly be happy. But if you’re wild and insatiable in the bedroom, and never get bored of each other, regardless of how long you’ve been together, it’s a sign of true happiness and love.
6. You really communicate with each other
In a relationship it’s really important to be able to communicate with your partner. This means that you need to actively listen to what he has to say and he needs to really listen to what you have to say. Communication is a two-way street, and it can never be successful if one of the persons involved is not really listening to what the other person has to say. In a happy relationship, both partners are interested about what the other person has to say and they never try to hijack the conversation and lead it where they want to go. If your partner makes you feel heard, listened to and understood, you’re truly happy to have him in your life.