Relationships are hard when both partners work together to keep them alive, but if only one partner’s pulling all the weight, it’s much, much worse. The worst thing about it is when a person you learn that the person you care about doesn’t care for you. We all deserve a partner who’s going to treat you with priority instead of treating you as an option.
There are no obvious signs that can let you know you’re being treated like an option – it’s just a gut feeling for most people. Still, some people have been known to lack this feeling too, in which case you need to pay more attention to certain signs. There are early signs which show that you’re not a priority for your partner and as soon as you notice them, you need to either talk to them or kill the relationship.
Here are 8 signs that your partner thinks of you as an option:
They Make No Plans in Advance
If your partner makes plans with you only a few days in advance which makes you reschedule a lot of stuff just to accommodate them, you’re probably not on the top of their list. If you’re not a second option to your partner, they will make plans for the both of you weeks or even months in advance – it’s a sign that they care about your schedule as well.
They Don’t Want to Go Out
When your partner prefers staying at home on date nights when you’re clearly supposed to go out, you need to rethink your relationship. Yeah, everything’s great when they’re at home with you, but if they don’t want to go out with you, there’s probably a reason for it.
Excuses, Excuses, Excuses
Partners who consider you an option instead of priority always make excuses for everything, including seeing you. If they’re really in love with you, they will ALWAYS find a way. Nothing can stop your partner from seeing you, but only if they want to. If they make excuses, you need to stop and think.
They’re Always Bored
Sure, relationships can get boring. We all get in a rut with our partner, but if they’re always bored when they’re with you, you need to have a word with them. This shows that you’re really not as funny to them as you think, so everything you do is nothing more than wasting time. If this case, you need to reconsider your plans.
They Rarely Show Interest in You
A partner who loves you will show interest in your daily plans and life. They don’t seem to notice anything you do and don’t really care about your life. In this case, you should openly talk to them about your relationship before things get worse.
They Act Suspicious
Partners who act suspicious and out of the ordinary most likely have something to hide. You need to address this kind of behavior before things take an ugly turn and you notice they’ve been doing something behind your back.
You’re Unhappy and Feel Underappreciated
If you ever start feeling unhappy, underappreciated, and unloved in a relationship, it’s time to talk to your partner. If there’s anything that can be fixed, give it a try. If there’s not, you should move on from them.
They Only Call When They Need Something
A partner who’s really in love will call you simply to hear your voice – hearing you makes their day and makes them happy, which is an obvious sign that they love you. If they call and answer your calls only out of need, you should know that your relationship is not going in the right direction.