If you’re married you probably know that marriage needs work, needs dedication and compromises, it’s not something you can take lightly if you want to make it last. If you don’t invest in your marriage it will fall apart, faster that you can imagine. Things get a lot more complicated once you say the infamous ‘I DO’, those who’ve been there know it. You need to have realistic expectations, be prepared to win some and lose some, but most importantly you need to understand each other and respect each other to make your marriage successful and happy.
Don’t expect it to be just rainbows and butterflies, it’s going to get rough at times and you’re going to fight, but at the end of the day, you need to be able to make up and come to a peaceful resolution.
If you’re new in the game and feel lost at the beginning, here are 10 important rules you need to follow if you want your marriage to last:
Don’t let yourself fall into a routine and become just friends. You need to keep the spark alive and spice things up in the bedroom if you want your love to last.
Lower Your Expectations
Don’t expect too much from your partner, don’t set the bar too high as you may get disappointed. Lower your expectations and you may get surprised.
Communicate with Each Other
You need to communicate with your partner to make things work. Talk to each other about everything, what bothers you and what bothers him, discuss everything and your marriage should last a lifetime. Even when you have nothing new to say, talk about your day, about your dreams, about your plans for the future. Communication will keep your marriage alive.
Date Each Other
You may be husband and wife now, but that doesn’t mean you should stop dating. The busy lifestyle we all lead may force us to have little time to spare for our partners now that we live together, but make sure you go out on a date at least once every 2-3 weeks to keep things interesting.
Listen to Each Other
You both need to become great listeners so that you can understand each other better. This will make your relationship happier.
Grow as a Couple and as Individuals
Do things together as a couple and push each other to grow and evolve. Don’t let yourselves to fall into a routine and stagnate. Work on yourself and on your relationship.
Compromises are essential for a happy and long-lasting marriage. Be patient and learn how to make compromises to make your marriage work.
There Will Be Rocky Periods
Your marriage will not always be the perfect ride, there will be ups and downs, but you need to accept this. It’s completely normal and there’s nothing you can do about it. Be more understanding to each other and just be happy when the good times overrule the bad times.
Be the Best Version of Yourself
You need to bring the best version of yourself in your marriage. Don’t be afraid to be creative, spontaneous, adventurous and goofy, all of these qualities are the reason why your partner chose you.