Six Types Of Emotional Abuse By Narcissistic Parents

Six Types Of Emotional Abuse By Narcissistic Parents

Emotional abuse can have a serious effect on a child’s mental health and it’s not a matter that should be taken lightly. Many people aren’t even aware of the types of emotional abuse that parents can inflict on their children and believe that only physical abuse should be reprimanded. However, emotional abuse can have a far more detrimental effect than physical abuse and it’s becoming a much more common form of abuse, especially in parents with narcissistic personality traits.

Here are the 6 most common forms of emotional abuse:

Rejective Parents

Narcissistic parents can often, willingly or unwillingly, make their children feel unwanted and rejected. In some cases the rejection is quite obvious and is displayed purposefully, while in others the parents don’t even realize that this type of behavior is bad for their child. This type of abuse is becoming very common and the biggest problem is that many don’t even see it as an abuse. Calling your child names, belittling their needs, telling him it’s worthless or that it’s his fault this or that happened is all part of this abuse.

This type of abuse is most commonly manifested through the following actions:

  • Name-calling
  • Constant criticism
  • Calling the child ugly
  • Constantly yelling at him/her
  • Swearing
  • Verbal humiliation
  • Belittling the child and calling him stupid or an idiot
  • Teasing a child about his weight or other some other appearance flaw
  • Telling him you regret he or she wasn’t born in the opposite sex
  • Avoiding hugs and giving him love and affection
  • Excluding the child from any and all family activities
  • Not letting the child choose anything on his own
  • Treating an older child as if he was a baby
  • Physical abandonment

Ignoring Parents

Parents who haven’t been emotionally educated by their parents often become ignoring parents themselves. This type of parents often fail to show their children how much they care about them, provide them with support and love and often don’t even recognize their presence. The parent may be physically present but he’s unavailable on an emotional level and this kind of attitude, or the lack of interaction and nurture for your child is considered emotional abuse.

This type of abuse is most commonly manifested through the following actions:

  • Not paying attention to the important events in your child’s life
  • Not responding to the spontaneous social behaviors of your child
  • Not paying attention to the child’s schooling and his social life
  • Not wanting to discuss the interests and activities your child is involved in
  • Excluding your child from event planning
  • Denying the child’s basic health and dental care
  • Not engaging him on a daily basis
  • Being unable to provide protection

Terrorizing Parents

The previous two types of abuse may have been a bit on the milder side, but terrorizing a child is most definitely considered one of the worst forms of abuse. Threatening your child, yelling and swearing at him, using him to set out an example for his siblings, ridiculing him in front of his peers, making him feel worthless and similar actions can have a devastating effect on a child’s well-being and mental health. This kind of behavior is unacceptable from a parent and will cause the child to be terrified when at home or around his parents, the person who’re supposed to care for him and support him the most.

This type of emotional abuse includes the following behaviors:

  • Teasing your child excessively
  • Cursing, swearing and yelling at your child
  • Responding extreme and unpredictable to your child’s actions
  • Verbal threats
  • Periods of rage alternating with periods of warmth
  • Threatening to abandon the child, destroy his favorite toy or harm his pet
  • Forcing your child to watch terrorizing acts
  • Treating him good some days while belittling and terrorizing him on other days
  • Being inconsistent in your emotions and behavior
  • Ridiculing him in public
  • Always changing the rules as you see them fit
  • Telling him he’s adopted or that he doesn’t belong in the family
  • Threatening you’ll tell his peers about some embarrassing moments
  • Threatening a teenager, you’ll evict him

Isolating Parents

What does isolation really mean in terms of parenting abuse? Well, it means that a parent will not allow his child to participate in activities with his peers, will keep the child in his room and prevent them from interacting with others, will isolate him from every form of interaction. This kind of behavior can have a serious impact on a child’s development, can affect his mental health negatively and may result in serious consequences later in life. This form of behavior is destructive and depending on how severe the isolation is can be considered emotional abuse.

This type of emotional abuse includes the following behaviors:

  • Leaving your child alone and isolated for longer periods of time
  • Not letting your child interact and meet friends
  • Keeping him away from other family members
  • Praising your child for being unsociable
  • Stimulating a child to act differently than his friends
  • Isolating him from his friends
  • Preventing your child from being socially active
  • Punishing your child for interacting with others and engaging in appropriate social activities
  • Pushing him to study excessively so that he doesn’t have time for a social life

Corrupting Parents

This type of parents can allow their children to do drugs, smoke, or drink alcohol, encourage them to be cruel to animals, watch inappropriate sexual behavior or even take part in criminal activities like pickpocketing, gambling, assault and battery, prostitution and so on.

It goes without saying that encouraging a child that’s underage to do illicit things is considered one of the worst forms of abuse and should be reported to the authorities.

This type of emotional abuse includes the following behaviors:

  • Praising your child for bullying others or harassing his peers
  • Inciting racist behaviors
  • Encouraging violence in sport
  • Rewarding your child for things like lying, stealing and deceiving others
  • Encouraging illegal activities like selling drugs
  • Giving your child alcohol, drugs and cigarettes
  • Praising your child for sexual activities and substance abuse

Exploiting Parents

This type of parents will usually manipulate the child or force him to do something without having his needs in mind. For example, an exploiting parent may ask 7 or 8 years old to be responsible for dinner every night is totally inappropriate as the child isn’t ready for such responsibilities. Giving your child responsibilities that he or she obviously isn’t ready for is considered exploitation and abuse and this type of behavior should be terminated.

This type of emotional abuse includes the following behaviors:

  • Expecting your child or infant not to cry
  • Being angry with your child for not meeting a certain stage in his development
  • Expecting your child to take care of you as a parent
  • Expecting your child to take care of his younger brothers and sisters
  • Telling him it’s his fault his siblings did something they shouldn’t have
  • Giving your child unreasonable responsibilities
  • Expecting your child to provide for the family
  • Sexual abuse
  • Encouraging child pornography participation


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