“We’ll stay friends, right?” How many times has everyone heard that sentence? It’s probably the most popular sentence following a break-up and supposedly has an optimistic tone. However, most of us know that it’s often said just to make everything less awkward.
Is there any point staying friends with an ex? Destroying your own heart and mind after a tough break-up? No, there isn’t. As a matter of fact, there’s nothing normal about it – according to some psychologists, exes who want to stay friends are most likely psychopaths!
According to a recent study, the people who like to stay friends with exes have a bad personality and may be suffering from narcissism and psychopathy. Pretty bad, right? It gets worse. The study also found that these people don’t want to stay friends just because they’re nice – in fact, they might be trying to manipulate you and take advantage when you least expect it! They will eventually use you to gain something, be it money, sex, or important information.
Narcissists hate to lose and break-ups are another thing they’ve failed at. So, in order to ‘fix’ their problem, they offer friendship after a break-up. Don’t shake their olive branch, however – just walk away and go on with your life.
Narcissists and psychopaths share a personality trait – they hate losing and hate seeing another person happy with a new partner. They only want to control you and will do whatever it takes to stay friends with you. In this way, they can manipulate you every time they need something.
Don’t do this to yourself. Don’t let yourself fall down in the toxic trap of psychopath exes. If he or she breaks up with you, hold your head high and walk away – there are plenty of fish in the sea.