You are probably asking yourself how can leaving the person you love be better for you. Adults almost instinctively steer clear from instability and drama. But if the person you hold dear invites conflict and problems, it is better to go through the hassle of a break up, for the sake of both of you.
As Steve Maraboli says, you can’t influence someone into committing to you, loving you, respecting you. You are worth more than that and if that person can’t learn to appreciate you by themselves, leaving is the best choice.
(1) No Future Talks
You two go out, have healthy conversations, but don’t make any midterm plans or have any conversations about a joint future. When you steer the conversation into that direction, your partner tries to evade it. This means they are not in for the long haul. Better leave before you are left.
(2) Your partner is reckless
Adults have responsibilities. They should take care of their actions and the consequences that might arise. If you find yourself in a situation where you constantly look after your partner, it’s time to call it quits.
(3) Abusive partner
If your partner shows signs of physical or psychological abuse, they are a toxic environment for you. No matter the amount of love someone has for you, if they don’t have enough appreciation for you as an individual with integrity, the wise thing would be to part ways.
(4) Violent partner
Love cannot be in the same basket with violence. No matter the experiences you’ve been through or how sorry your partner was after they were violent. If you have a relationship with a violent partner, this is the exemplary situation where the best solution is to leave your partner.
(5)You adjust. Always.
A relationship is a two-way street in every aspect. It’s time to plan your escape if you constantly have to adapt to your partner’s needs and time, instead of compromising.
(6) Not taking your approval into account
Partners are equals. Your desires are of identical importance as your partner’s. If you don’t get a say in the decisions and plans that influence both of you, your partner is repressive and that’s not a healthy relationship.
(7) Cheating partner
Once a cheater, always a cheater. If your partner broke your trust once, there is a high probability he will get accustomed to it. This is another exemplary situation where leaving is the best choice.
(8) You have more painful memories than happy ones
When you think about your partner and the times you spent together, you should instantly get a smile on your face. There isn’t more of a red flag that indicates you should leave your partner, than not being able to reminisce cheerful times.
(9)You don’t know anyone from your partner’s life
Your partner can act as if you are the best thing that has happened to them. But if they are reluctant to introduce you to his inner circle of family and friends, it’s obvious they are not planning to stick around for long. Neither should you.
It’s hard to leave someone you hold dear. But despite the amount of love you have for them, you must love yourself more above all. If you are aware that you are getting the short straw in every way, it’s better to end it sooner than later.