Kids today are mostly shaped by the modern technology they’re exposed to every day and it has changed the way a child thinks, communicates and behaves with the people around him. This just makes raising kids in today’s world that much more difficult and challenging as they’re exposed to all kinds of negative influences. Moreover, parents didn’t have access to this type of technology when they were growing up so they are none the wiser on how to shape their minds and personalities into honest human beings.
We were raised in a different era and we can’t help but wonder what kind of person will our child grow up to be? Will this modern world shape him differently? Are we a good role model for him? Will he be happy and successful? Will he be a good person as an adult?
According to a group of Harvard University researchers there are a few things that can help parents have a positive influence on their children and help them raise a good, healthy and ambitious child in todays’ modern world. Below you will find the 5 most important steps you need to pay attention to when raising a child:
Make the most of your time spent with your child
Make sure your child knows that you’re there for him, not just physically but emotionally as well. Listen to what they have to say and pay attention to their needs. Make sure you’re not distracted by your phone or TV while you communicate with your child so that you can set a good example for him. Teach him what it means to be a considerate and caring person and he’ll look up to you.
- Play games with your child, whatever they enjoy the most.
- Talk to your child about their day
- Read your child a book
Be a positive role model
Children are like sponges, they absorb everything they see and hear and since they spend most of their time with you they can be influenced by you the most. You may think they’re young and still don’t understand but you’re wrong, children can understand much more than you give them credit for. Think carefully on how you talk and act around them. Always apologize when you make a mistake and admit when you’re wrong. Treat the people around you respectfully and you’ll know that you’re setting a good example for them. Be the person you want your child to be proud of and earn the respect you think you deserve. Always be honest with your child and he’ll see that that’s the person they want to become when they grow up.
- Admit when you’re wrong and apologize for your mistakes
- Take care of yourself before you start taking care of others
- Admit when there’s a problem and talk about how you can fix it
Teach your child the values in life
You need to teach your child to share and communicate with others from a very young age. You need to show him that other people’s feelings are just as important so that he can grow up to be a selfless person who respects his peers.
Caring about other people’s feelings is just as important as caring about your own and you need to teach your children to understand this. Be consistent and persistent as children can often be stubborn, especially at a younger age.
- Show them what it means to be kind and considerate through simple actions
- They need to learn how to be responsible in life and stick to the commitments they’ve made. Quitting a sport they think is hard should not be an option, teach them that sometimes they need to work harder to get what they want.
Teach them to be grateful for the things they have
They need to know that they can’t take everything for granted. Teach them that there are people less fortunate than them and that they should appreciate the things they have. To be humble and grateful in life is one of the biggest virtues, teach your child this.
- Take every chance you have to remind your child to be grateful
- Teach them to be respectful towards people (friends, neighbors, teachers, family members)
- Make sure you are a positive influence as well and respect what you teach
Show them the bigger picture
It’s no secret that children are usually defined by a small circle of friends and family and aren’t particularly thrilled about expanding this circle. You need to teach them that there are people worth getting to know outside their comfort zone and that they need to be more open to new people. This may be the new neighborhood kid, the new classmate, or the cleaning lady and they should be kind to these people as well, even though they may not care much about them at first.
- Make them understand the concept of empathy through practical examples – make them reach out to the new kid in the neighborhood or comfort a crying child
- Teach them to be kind with the people around him and not have prejudices
- Talk with people from different religions, communities, beliefs and backgrounds.